Guest Hjarnar Posted October 22, 2012 Share Posted October 22, 2012 Hello everyone. I am at the biggest dillema in my life right now. the thing is that since i was 5 to 15 years old I always told people that I wanted to become a soldier, I kept to that thought untill my sister (whom I respected a lot) told me that it was a childish dream, like becoming a rockstar. I never let go of the dream, but started telling people that I dropped it. After a few years, I got a girlfriend, and we are having the time of our lives, planning the future and simply loving eachother. She told me one day, that she was against the military, because of the slaughter of civilians, I told her that I had no interest in going into the army, hoping that what I said wouldn't become a problem later on. One day I got a letter from the Danish military, asking me to come for a check-up at Forsvarets Dag (Day of the army). I had to go if I didn't want to get sent to jail, so on my 19th birthday I was sent to one of the bases in Denmark to get checked and pull a number. I was in good shape and I pulled a number that didn't say that I had to join, but something inside me woke up that day, something that had been slumbering inside me for years. I volunteered for the 4 months of basic training. When I got back to my girlfriend, I told her. As one can immagine, she was upset that I supported the Danish military. I told her that I wasn't going to be sent out to Afghanistan or Iraq, and that I'd stay here in Denmark with her, but get ripped in thosse 4 months, that settled her down a lot. After a long time we talked about the subject again, and I ended up telling her that being in the military had been my dream since I was 5 years old. She felt so bad for "controlling my choices in life", that she gave me full support for the basic training. She told me one thing though: "If you dicide to become a professional soldier, I'll leave you.". TLDR: So here's the dillema: I want to become professional, but I also want to be with my girlfriend whom I've been with for so long. It's like wanting to pour water on a flame and hope that it's still burning afterwards. Please help, how do I tell her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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